What Im looking for….

I get asked a lot what Im looking for... what I like… what turns me on, etc.  Maybe its time to just sit here and put it all down in a blog for you all to read.  But where to start?

What Im Looking For:  A long term FWB.  We all know Im a “slut” per my previous blog.  But, I truly prefer being that slut for just a select few good friends.  My FWB must understand and realize that Im married and have a family, run three companies and my schedule just plain sucks!  Family and work will always come before play time.  I get very little actual “Play” time.  People who flake out or cancel on a repeated basis get crossed off the list very fast!  Im not trying to be a bitch, just realistic.  I don’t have time to just toss away on someone who has made plans and doesn’t follow through.  Altho I DO understand that crap happens, it happens for me and Im sure it will happen for you.  Legitimate cancels are understandable.  My FWB must be a FRIEND!  Someone who can hang out, someone who can be respectful and polite.  Someone Im not scared to have in my home or around my family.  Someone that can realize that we enjoy having you over for a bbq, football, etc… but it wont ALWAYS mean sex at the end of the night.  Sometimes its nice to just build and enjoy those friendships.  Someone that can respect the boundaries and be appropriate if we are in a family situation, but can still shoot me that look across the room and let me know that when we are alone next, you will melt me.  Someone that can be on friendly terms with the hubby and have the upmost respect for him.  HE is the most important man in my life, he agrees to share me (and I him).  Respect that!  If you can not respect him you will not have my respect and friendship. 

What I like:  I like it all!  I suppose if you are talking physically I do have some preferences….

1. I REALLY enjoy chocolate ;) … however vanilla is yummy too.
2. I prefer tall fit men… and bbw women.  Those feisty Latina’s always catch my eye.  Tall, Fit, chocolate man with a shaved head??  OH YEAH… Im so there!
3. I get all melty for shaved heads!!  Im not sure why, but its almost a fetish for me lol.
4. I like the bad boys… tats, piercings, that “Im gonna take what I want” attitude.
5. I like a bad boy who can be a gentleman in public, carry on a conversation, engage my mind, SEDUCE my brain before taking my body.  And yes, I do mean TAKE my body. 
6. I LOVE a good flirt!!  For me, and again this is just me, the “chase” is as much fun at the sex.  And once we have sex, CONTINUE that flirty chase.  All that flirting, chasing, innuendos… just turn me the fuck on.  The better you are at the chase, the more likely you will be to take me.  And Im NOT talking about conversations that revolve around “are you wet?”… that is not subtle or sexy.
7. Intelligence!!!  Someone with some wit, brains in their head, can make me laugh and a minute later make me melt.  Such a turn on!!
8. A “take charge and take what you want” guy in the bedroom.  Im basically a shy girl, pretty submissive as well, when it comes to sex. 

But, these are truly just preferences.  I have had “friends” who don’t fall into these preferences.  Their personality, conversation, heart, whatever you want to call it, was what made the determining factor.  Not their looks. 

What Turns Me On:

1. Intelligence – please be able to carry on a conversation that is NOT about sex!
2. Wit – there is nothing sexier than a man or woman with a sense of humor
3. Bald Head – Have I mentioned I have a thing for bald heads??
4. Dominant People – this applies to the bedroom and sex only.  Im a strong personality, Im in charge ALL day every day.  Don’t try to dominate me when Im in work mode.  I can shut your ass down in a heartbeat.  Be my equal, earn my respect, THEN you can dominate me all night long.  Understand also that there can be sex without the dominance… very few have figured out how to truly dominate me. 
5. Spanking, hair pulling, nibbling, biting…. Make it rough and exciting.  If you go to far I will let you know. 
6. Favorite Position… seriously?  Why do I have to have a favorite?  Cant I just enjoy sex, love sex, take full advantage of any position we happen to be in?  Come on… you can think of something better to converse about other than “whats your favorite position baby?”  Yuck.  Go away if that’s the best you can do. 
7. Dirty Talk – again, don’t try this when Im in work mode.  I will not be held responsible for accidents and injuries if you do.  But get me into a sexual situation and you can call me whatever name you like. 
8. Chocolate, Sushi, Coffee – as in men, food, drink.  LOL, Im such a slut for some hot chocolate who takes me to coffee or sushi.
9. That’s enough freebies – I could sit here all day talking about what turns me on, figure out the rest for your self.  Maybe you can introduce me to something new that turns me on. 

What Turns Me OFF:

1. “DTF?” – and other stupid one liners that some of you seem to think is the start of a great conversation.  Seriously, go the local bar and find a hooker if that is the best you can do.  Im not a hooker, and I am NOT in need of you or your “big cock”.  Move along, don’t even stop to window shop on my page.  I don’t want you.
2. Ghetto – pull your pants up and don’t talk like a thug
3. Drugs – yes, that means 420 as well.  I don’t mind or care what you do in your own life, but don’t bring it into mine.  Even the smell is a turn off for me.  Sorry folks, that’s just how I am.  Please respect that.
4. Drama – need I say more? 
5. Strings – There is a fine, VERY fine, line between Friends and Strings.  Attachments are ok as long as they still fall into the “friends” category.  This is so hard to explain, but if you have been a part of the lifestyle long enough you will get it. 
6. Again, enough with the freebies.