Some of you may have read my profile and wondered what what I mean when I say I'm "heteroflexible". It causes confusion sometimes about which way I swing. This blog entry is to explain to you what is heteroflexibility and why I consider myself to be this.

Up until I met Jen, my "sexual life" as such was close to non-existent. Twelve years of Catholic school really did a number on me, to the point where I was convinced that most girls would consider me a pervert for even suggesting the idea of sex. I had lost my virginity at age 19, but in the 2 years after that...nothing. My flirtation device was thoroughly broken, and I had absolutely no prospects, save for one relationship that I realize now wasn't even a relationship (1 year and no sex). 

So, in 1998, I decided to give up. I decided to stop searching and just have fun with friends. And it's precisely when I stopped looking that I found Jen.

We met at a party, and we became inseparable. When we started having sex, she was very patient with me, and taught me what I needed to know. We eventually moved in together, and I kept learning more and more from her.

In 2002, we had our first threesome with another girl (a mutual friend). I had always wanted to try that, the stars aligned that evening, and before you know it, I was in between two girls, and we were all pleasuring each other the entire night. Sadly, a repeat of that evening never occurred with that friend again.

Later that year, a mutual guy friend of ours expressed interest in a threesome. At first I was hesitant, but I realized that it was only fair that Jen have an MFM, seeing how I had my FMF. So we did it.

And I was very suprised at how much I enjoyed myself. The guy friend and I didn't touch each other that first time, but I was strangely turned on, not just by Jen, but by him as well. This was something that I had not expected.

Years passed. Jen and I got married in 2003. Our son was born in 2005. By 2008, we were starting to re-explore our kinky sides again. Because I was still very vanilla at the time, I was hesitant about going too fast, but Jen was very understanding, and when our mutual guy friend came around asking again about whether we were interested in another threesome, she made it very clear that it would happen only with my permission.

I decided I should have a talk with our guy friend and let him know about my surprise attraction. Amazingly, he not only understood, but he said that he thought it might be fun to explore that further! I was game, and Jen was game, so between 2008 and 2011 we would have occasional threesomes. Each time the guy friend and I would go a little further, exploring more. By the time of the last threesome, we had gotten to the point where we pretty much did everything exept anal sex. Anal sex was our boundry, as neither of us had any interest in that. Otherwise, touching sucking, rimming, it was all good.

Unfortunately, we did have to put an end to the threesomes. He has a girlfriend who knows nothing about his extra-curricular activities, and when they moved in together, Jen and I thought it prudent that we end our escapades with him. 

I learned a lot about myself, however. I learned that I could be attracted to another guy, but it is such a narrow and specific type of guy I'm attracted to, since I do find most guys sexually repellent (For this reason, Jen believes that I'm about 90 percent heterosexual). This is why I am open to the idea of an MFM threesome with Jen. It's not because I'm into the humilation thing.

It's because I expect to be able to also play with any third party we bring into the bedroom, whether it be male or female. So, if you're a guy, and you think you want to play with my wife, understand what it would mean if you want to play with us.

We are, after all, a package deal.