I originally wrote this on AdultFriendFinder, after chatting with a woman I knew there and how she had been treated by a great number of guys on that site. I decided to re-post it here because it still has some relevance here.

Inevitably on sites like this, there are guys that think that because a woman is on here, that she no longer deserves to be treated as such and can be treated like crap, especially if they do not do something that the guy wants. It is a common mindset unfortunately that comes along with any site, place or business that deals with Sex or Adult themes. People come to to those places for a fantasy (especially guys) and when they do not get it, they lash out.

I have known women that worked in the Adult industry for many years now, most were exotic dancers (you will never guess how I met them, it was through a totally not sex-related thing..lol) and a couple were women who had their own online sites (one was even an actual porn star) but they all had one thing in common and that was the guys who thought that since they worked in the adult industry, they no longer deserved to be treated like people but as objects. For the dancers, this translated into guys touching them where they were not supposed to (believe it or not, there is an etiquette that is used when going to a strip club) and then getting upset when the dancer corrected their behavior. For the women with sites where they did cam shows it was guys demanding things of them and then getting upset and lashing out if they did not do it (even when it was just their standard personal cam and not a "cam show").

Just because a woman chooses to take part in an adult activity, does not mean that they forfeit any right to be treated with respect. First and foremost, they are still people and deserve to be treated as such. I don't care if a woman on here is a Porn Star, and her profile is about looking for people to have a gang-bang with, you still treat her with respect (you can be dirty/naughty and respectful at the same time).

Bottom line is guys, the ladies on here are searching for a fantasy too and unless their profile specifically states that their fantasy is to be degraded by a guy (and even then there is a way to do that respectfully) then just treat them like ladies when you contact them and don't be a demanding prick, it is the quickest way to not get what you want.

Hope this made sense to, well, anybody really. Thanks for reading.