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Consent is an important aspect of play parties, in dating sites, in BDSM scenes, and in porn. Recent events have shown adult performers have the same issues in the industry. What happens should be mutually consented to by both parties. This is important at all stages, from the first touch to the last.
No means no. Period.
No does not mean badger me until I change my mind.
Yes, you are free to ask on another day, another party, etc. However, if you keep getting a consistent no, it's not me...it's you.
When I play, it's with people I like, am attracted to, and they are generally people that I would hang out and do vanilla things with. Some people are drawn to a specific type, and if you aren't their type, it's a no-go. Some like gang bangs, but rule out things like kissing as too intimate. Others are turned on by watching their partner playing with others. One size does not fit all.
Respect other peoples limits. Ask permission. When permission is granted, remember it is granted then, and may be revoked at any point in play, and does not extend to lifetime play rights.
A great cartoon on the matter (and a great series):http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/consent/
Lady_Stark: Even in BDSM scenes, the act that has been negotiated is subject to revocation within a session. A party calls "red"- even during playing, I may say I want to try something new and find out that it's not for me, it causes pain, or I'm getting really dizzy in this position and can't feel my toes when I'm tied that way...03.03.2016 0 points
SweetBeach: Consent at a party can be different than consent in a bdsm setting. One involves mainly sex while the other is a series of negotiations about what might occur during a scene. Typically in bdsm it's been prenegotiated. Though the don't touch unless you ask or are asked rule always is good to remember.02.03.2016 1 point
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