Having been a member on this site for about 10 months now I have been able to observed as well as get first hand information from many of the members.  Although I have not been to a party yet (and those of you whom know me know why) I have still been pretty active but quite observant as well.  

And based on my observation I have noticed many interesting things which I will mention and address individually.

The first thing I have noticed and I am sure many guys on this site will vouch for this is that many of the female members add people as friends and log onto the site, but when someone attempts to socialize they act like the men are the plague or a village servant.  If you dont wish to communicate or socialize with a person simply state thank you but not interested.  Honesty truly goes a long way and in my experience it makes life quite easier.  Yes this is a site for BBW women but its also for the guys that are attracted to them.  After all if it wasnt for us men then you women would have no reason to be on the site or the existence of the site completely.  And it truly goes the other way as well.  No women than indubitably no men as well. So essentially we are both here for each other and each others company.  Now that does that mean every girl has to conversate with every guy.  But if a guy goes out of his way to talk to you give him the common courtesy to let him know "thanks but no thanks."

The second point is ladies, if you are requesting a certain type of approach or conversation or guy in generally, then provide that person in return.  You surely get back what you put out there.  If I act like an asshole or a pervert the I will surely recieve the same in return.  If you want a intelligent gentleman then carry yourself as a intelligent lady.  It is the 21s tcentury and if you want the double standard to end then you must take action as well.  You can expect guys to treat you equally when you feel a certain way and then expect to use the power of womenly persuasion another day.  The ability for a women to persuade a guy much easier then a man to be able to do so is essentially a large component of the double standars amongst many other spects which I'm sure I need not get into into.  

Now I am not saying that when a guy IM's you an says an outlandish and vulgar comment then he deserves some kind of coutesy.  Bt remember the images and your profile should lay out these requirements and portray such image.  As stated above you get in return what you put out.  

So simply ut or better yet to sum up, do not add a person as a friend and whenever that perosn tries to speak to you , you completely ignore him.  And if you expect an intellectual conversation then you must give one in return.  And in order to give one in return you must actually converse.  

And fellas, for crying out loud, it is a swinger site not a brothel in Tijuana.  A simple hello as your first comment and a few kid words after goes a long way.  Everyone loves talking and hearing about themselves, so engage in questioning asking about the person whom you're talking to who.  Not only will you get to know them better but you can use this information to further youurself in whatever your pursuit is.  

There is surely much more that can be said but then it will go from feedback to a rant