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I understand that there has been a lot of contention/discussion lately about the site. Some of you seem to feel that the “quality” of members may be sliding. But is that necessarily true? Most of the people that I ask have been finding the site via other sites or search engines, not necessarily CL. If it weren’t for the advertising on CL, I would not have become a member back in August of 2011, nor would I have ever attended a party. As an individual, I haven’t had problems with meeting people from CL directly. And, I don’t believe it is fair to classify people as “those CL guys/members”. “Those CL guys” have been, and will hopefully continue to be, some of my favorite people (and you know who you are!).
Personally, I feel that if you just take a minute and explain to someone what you are looking for, or on the site for, they are quick to decide if they fit that description, or tell them flat out you don’t think you will be compatible. If someone becomes persistent with their actions, and they are unwelcome, just block them or ignore them. Be the better person, and just let them fade away. If you are the person being ignored or blocked, get a grip! Obviously the person you are trying to talk to isn’t interested, move on.
This site is not for everyone, clearly. And we don’t all have the same perspective as to what the site is here for (sex, hook-ups, FWB, NSA, relationship, etc, etc). I believe it is up to the individual member to do what they feel is right, or comfortable, to make it work for themselves.
Curious to know what the rest of you think… And does it need to be a discussion in the Shout Box?
seekingcs: I came across this site thanks to CL and so far I am impressed. I can't wait to attend a party as they sound like a lot of fun. All the comments here show the diversity of people and thier wants from this site. I believe this diversity is what keeps this site going and keeps people interested. If we were all the same it would be a little boring.17.01.2012 2 points
EvaOhhh: My hubby & I learned of this site from CL...we still hook up with peeps off CL too. There are a lot of real people out there, not everyone is a CL ” weirdo”. I can honestly say we've never had a bad CL experience. As for this site...I wouldn't change anything about it.06.01.20121 replies1 replies 5 points-
GuufyGirl: Wow - I never would have thought this topic would have generated this much discussion. Everyone is making good, valid points. I hope many more of you continue to voice you opinions...29.12.2011 5 points 
admin: Thank you to all the great comments. As a gay man I hooked up countless times on Craigslist BUT I had a very good system down that worked with checks and balances and I got pretty good at weeding thru people. BUT (and this is a huge BUT) I often met guys who seemed flakey via e-mail and not very interesting and then when I met them they were very interesting and sexy. And then I met guys who were "fascinating" online but when we met in person, UGH. Nothing! Zero connection. So the big lesson I learned is to never make assumptions. I believe you don't know ANYTHING about someone til you meet them in person, good or bad. So it's good to just meet people cause you never what could come of it. But just meet for coffee at a Starbucks. Or meet them with a friend. I had guys send me pics and they were hot but when they showed up, not so much. BUT BUT BUT I also met guys with pics that didn't do much for me but when I met them in person they were super hot. So you never know!29.12.2011 6 points
Lady_Stark: I whole-heartedly agree with everyone's comments here. I would like to stress Caligirl's concern with predjudice. Everyone has the right to their feelings and opinions. It is never acceptable to judge someone else's or put them down for the way they feel. Agree to disagree, but be respectful. Always.29.12.2011 6 points-
admin: This is a fascinating conversation I would love to engage in. Thank you for bringing it up. I could write volumes on this topic if time were not a factor but I always feel a week behind. So I'll keep it brief. All of this sprung and flowed from Craigslist. My first party YEARS ago started on CL and many of those people have become best friends and attended countless party since. The USA site grew out of the parties. The BBW site grew out of USA. The BBW parties started in Ocean Beach. Then Christina brought us to Spring Valley BUT it all started on Craigslist. People from Craigslist are no different from people anywhere. They are just people. There will always be douchebags coming around, it is impossible to be a human on this planet and not run in to douchebags. . It is my job to keep them off the site and away from the parties and we take complaints very seriously. I wish I could write more but come to a party and we'll discuss it more. I'm really excited about Friday night. Looking forward to seeing many of you.29.12.2011 8 points